Suburban Spiders

One thing I won't miss about the suburbs: spiders.

When Tiffany and I first moved in with our friends on Long Island in August, we encountered so many spiderwebs while running in the early morning that I soon took to holding my arm up in front of my face to intercept the sticky webs. Tiffany hit one spider full on and took off her t-shirt right then and there--arachnophobic-Brandi-Chastain-style rather than risk running with him in tow.

I don't know where spiders live in the city, but they don't have time to build webs. Too many people walking to and fro. Maybe city spiders have co-ops.

Anyway, I've learned to spot the tell-tale shine of the silk draping across my path and to watch out for spots where a web could be connected across the sidewalk: two bushes, a stop sign and a bush, a tree and a stop sign, and so on and so on. Rather than risk getting tangled up, I began walking and running in the street. Tiffany did too.

The other night, we were walking home from the train in the middle of the street and a car raced past us, driving much too fast for pedestrian traffic.

"Slow down!" I shouted, raising my arm up but keeping my middle-finger down (Tiffany does not like it when I am road enraged). I hoped I wasn't yelling at one of our hosts' neighbors. "I mean, geez, people are walking here!"

Tiffany and I looked at each other. Then we looked at the sidewalk. And, since we hadn't seen a spider since the temperature started to drop, we headed toward it.

Disorganized Chaos

Tiffany and I have been living out of suitcases and duffel bags so long that I've stopped even pretending to fold my clothes anymore. Except for my dress pants and shirts, my wardrobe (mostly t-shirts and capris since we moved here in August and haven't really unpacked our winter wear yet) is shoved onto a few shelves in our friends' basement. The majority of our clothes are still packed tightly in boxes. When I take a pair of pants to the dry cleaners, my lower-half options decrease by about 20 percent. Living in a state of such chaos can make my mornings very frustrating.

"I'm turning on the light!" I shrieked to Tiffany this morning after rummaging around in the dark for several minutes. She was supposed to have had the luxury of a later wake-up time than I did. "I can't find anything! I need the shirt-thingy that I wear underneath fancy shirts, and I have to leave in 13 minutes!"

"Mmmmm," she mumbled.

"I'm dumping all my clothes on the bed!" I cried, tossing things with both hands behind on me onto the comforter so I'd have more room to assess what I was finding. "I can't find that shirt-thingy!"

Sometimes I find repeating myself makes people more likely to do something for me.

"What shirt-thingy?" Tiffany asked, extricating herself from my growing pile.

"The one with the straps..."

"Is the shirt you're wearing see-through? Do you actually need the shirt-thingy?"

I looked at myself in the mirror and held my hand up inside my shirt. I couldn't see my hand... or could I? Now in a panic, I picked a regular t-shirt from the pile and put it on underneath my fancy shirt. Tiffany shook her head at me slowly.

"I don't care what it looks like," I said, lying through my gritted teeth. "I'm wearing it!"

Tiffany saved the day. When I came back downstairs from putting bread in the toaster for peanut butter toast, the emergency breakfast I make when I don't have time for anything else, Tiffany had my shirt-thingy dangling from her pinky. I put it on and then sprinted back upstairs again to eat. Still, I wanted her to know how much I appreciated what she'd done.

"Can you come upstairs to give me a kiss!" I cried. "I have eight minutes!"

Parent-speak

After three-months of living with small children, I understand kids perfectly well (dinosaurs have nine teeth no matter what I say; the letter P can be called any other letter of the alphabet depending on our mood; it is always a good time to sit down on the floor and roll a ball back and forth). It's parents who can be difficult to follow sometimes. Here's a conversation I had this weekend when our friends Meg and John, parents of Lily (2-years) and Stella (2-months), came to town:

Me (to Lily who had spent the previous five minutes looking for cracks in the wooden floor at her father's suggestion): Ooooh, Lily, let's go look out the window and see what we can see!

Lily: Okay! Let's find a school bus!

Me: Hmmm, there aren't many school buses at night. How about something else that's yellow... taxis!

John: Oh, really great idea, Rebo.

Me (brightly): I know...(then picking up on excessive amount of sarcasm) wait... what?

John: Taking a two-year-old to the window??

Me: But it's closed. And it's locked. And I'm holding her.

John: Still.

Me (narrowing my eyes, considering whether to point out that he and his wife decided to drive their small children to New York post-Hurricane Sandy and pre-walloping nor'easter in the middle of a gas shortage.... considering, considering, considering. Being the bigger person. Temporarily.): Fine. Lily, let's go back to looking at the floor.

First-World Refugees

After Hurricane Sandy, Tiffany and I were displaced from the basement of our friends, where we were already displaced, to the spare bedroom of other family friends who took me in during another time I was displaced (aka, graduate school). Weary of living out of boxes and bags-which we've been doing since we moved from San Francisco in August and will continue to do until we move into our Manhattan apartment in 27 days-I stubbornly refused to pack anything but work clothes. Of course, then I was unable to go to work, so I have been wearing the same "casual" outfit for days.

On the day of the storm, we filled up our car with gas, bought a bunch of bottled water, and then plopped down in front of the TV to "use the electricity while we've got it!" by having a Glee marathon. Along with my mom, whose weekend visit was extended by the storm, we took turns charging our cell phones in the car even though they were rendered virtually useless by the power outages all around us.

Every time the lights flickered, we gasped, collectively, and when they came back on we looked around and congratulated ourselves for being lucky.

When the power did finally go out, for a 12-hour period the day after the storm, we huddled around the fireplace, reading until we couldn't see anymore. After our electricity was restored, we shut off all the lights and stayed right where we were by the fire, Glee be damned.