Tiffany: "What are you doing?"
Me: "Trying to write a blog about not writing this blog anymore."
Tiffany: “Isn’t that an oxymoron?”
Tiffany knows how to say thank you in Korean. She's not Korean, has never been to Korea, and, as far as I know, has eaten Korean food only once, at a little barbecue joint near our first apartment in Los Angeles where we cooked the food ourselves over a tiny grill at the table ("Can you put my beef back on for a little bit?" I whispered, "It's still bloody.")
Still, I went to pick up the pants we had hemmed the other day (at 5’3, all our pants require hemming) and was greeted at the cash register by the seamstress, who was beaming.
"Your friend," she said, gesturing at me in a double-handed wave that suggested another female with slightly larger breasts.
I blinked at her, then nodded. Besides thank you, I also don't know the Korean words for fiancée or partner or lesbian.
"Yeah?" I asked, suddenly nervous that Tiffany had forgotten to pay for our last batch or had dropped off more pants than I could afford to pick up.
"Your friend says thank you in Korean!"
"Really?" I asked. "How do you say it?"
"Well," I said, handing over some cash and folding our plastic-wrapped pants over my arm, "Kamsahamnida."
We beamed at each other, and then I went out the door, beaming at everyone I passed on the street, all the way home until I could beam at Tiffany.
I haven't written a blog in a while, and it's not because there isn't plenty to write about. I still make silly mistakes in the kitchen; ask blonde things like whether the pay-to-play pool table at the bar knows I scratched on the 8-ball or is it okay to keep playing; and walk home twice, sometimes, to be with the woman I love. But, after four years of sharing those stories here with you, it's time for a change.
But not before I say thanks.
I'm lucky to have a life with more happy things than sad, to have people to share both kinds of things when they happen, to be in love with a woman who thinks it's important to say thank you, and to have had at least 49 of you read my blog, on occasion.
Farewell for now. I hope to share my words with you in some other form or fashion in the future. Until then…